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Singer/Songwriter & Autistic Advocate (feat Cory Singer) S5E15

Singer/Songwriter & Autistic Advocate (feat Cory Singer) S5E15

Cory is an accomplished singer/songwriter and Tiktok sensation, who just happens to be autistic. He uses his massive platform to talk about autism.


My guest today is for the first episode of my new Autistic Voices Series is none other than Cory Singer. Cory is an accomplished singer/songwriter and Tiktok sensation, who just happens to be autistic. He uses his massive platform to talk about autism. Cory uses his personal experience as an autistic person to create about autism that is humorous, engaging, educational, honest, and inspirational.

Guest Bio:

NJ Native Cory Singer is an accomplished singer/songwriter/musician and theater performer. Cory has performed in arenas before thousands nationwide. He starred on BRAVO TV’s singing Competition The Kandi Factory, winning the grand prize, taking home a song penned by Grammy Award Winning Artist Kandi Burress, “I Can Do Anything”. Cory is an exceptional songwriter, and he captivates his audiences no matter the venue or event. He finished out 2017 on a high note being added to several media magazine watch lists for 2018. Cory has become an advocate for children, families, and adults who are on the spectrum. He has used his TikTok to promote positivity by inspiring others with his platform. Cory has coined the phrase '"Let's Normalize Autism." He currently has over 500K fans and followers worldwide. 

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Rob Gorski is a single Dad to three amazing autistic boys as well as Found and CEO of The Autism Dad, LLC. Multiple award-winning blogger, podcaster, content creator, digital marketer, social media influencer, and respected public figure for well over a decade.

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Cory Singer

[00:00:00] Rob Gorski: Welcome to The Autism Dad podcast. I'm Rob Gorski. And I've got a really cool show for you guys today. I wanna kick off a new series that I'm starting called autistic voices, and the whole premise behind this is to just have conversations with autistic people and learn, you know, I, I wanna learn, I wanna better understand how I can be a better advocate for my kids, how I can better be a positive influence.

[00:00:21] And I want you guys. At home to see autistic people as the amazing humans and resource that they truly are. I have been very blessed in my life to know many autistic people and they have helped me raise my kids in ways that I would not have been able to replicate. Otherwise, autistic people have made such an impact on my life and we should be listening to them.

[00:00:44] I think sometimes we get caught up in everything that we're doing, that we maybe we don't, or we don't nearly as much as we should. And so I am. Excited to have my first guest today. His name is Corey singer. He is an accomplished singer songwriter. Very, very talented. I've been following him for a long time.

[00:01:02] And when the opportunity presented itself for Corey to be on the show, I was like, heck yeah, let's do this. Corey has a massive following on social media where he has over 400,000 followers on TikTok alone. He uses his platform, not only for his music, but to advocate for autism. He uses his own personal experience as an autistic person and blends it with his unique sense of humor.

[00:01:22] To create this content that is so relatable and so enjoyable that people outside of the autism community are, are taking notice. And that's so important because that's how we get understanding and acceptance. So I'm so excited. Corey, thank you for taking the time to be here. Could you take a minute and just tell us a little bit about yourself.

[00:01:41] Cory Singer: Yeah, sure. And thank you for having me. Uh, my name is Corey singer. I am 27 years old. I am a singer songwriter and I am an autism advocate. I post a lot of videos on TikTok talking about what it's like being autistic for me and. Getting rid of all the negative stigma behind it and giving people a true education about autism, the education I never had as an autistic child myself.

[00:02:08] Mm-hmm so that's, that's who I am. And I mentioned I'm a singer songwriter.

[00:02:12] Rob Gorski: Were you diagnosed young or were you older?

[00:02:14] Cory Singer: So I was diagnosed at around four years old and that's because I was nonverbal really? Uh, until about four years old. Yeah. My family, just my mom and dad didn't know what was wrong with me.

[00:02:24] And then they found out that I have autism and they said at around four years old, that's when I just started speaking. Like, you know, I get questions all the time. Would you start speaking? And my family, I even asked my family cuz I, I, I can't remember all the way back to while I was four years old. And I, I asked them like, when did I, how did I start speaking?

[00:02:41] They say, you just kind of started speak. You just developed later than most children. So I was diagnosed very young.

[00:02:49] Rob Gorski: You, so you were diagnosed young when you were saying that you reminded me of my youngest. My youngest is he's 13. Now he'll be 14. At the end of the month, he was nonverbal. For about the first four years of his life.

[00:03:00] And we actually thought at the time, like he failed all his hearing screenings and everything. Like he would not respond to anything. You could crash symbols behind him and he wouldn't flinch and he failed all his hearing screenings. And, you know, they said, well, we think that he's hearing impaired and we had to do this one last test where they like sedate him and put electrodes on his head to like measure his brain, processing the sound.

[00:03:22] and they were like, oh, he can hear, he's just ignoring you. Like, he's just tuning everything out. And uh, they said, you know, we think he's autistic and that took us down that whole road. And so we were learning, like sign language and all that kind of stuff to try and help him communicate. And then it was like four years old.

[00:03:38] We got him a boxer puppy because we thought, I mean, it wasn't like an actual service dog, but we thought like, it would be nice for him to have that connection, you know? And. First word he said was dog. And then he just started talking, like he could have been talking the whole time. Like he just it's like, he just wasn't ready to talk.

[00:03:57] He didn't stop. Yeah. And he didn't stop. Yeah. Sometimes I wish he would now, but you know, he's a teenager and he is like, Car all the time, um, that hit home because that I remember what that was. That was like, that's so interesting.

[00:04:09] Cory Singer: I was also very talkative as a team and, uh, I, I still am get me in front of the right people.

[00:04:13] I'll just, I'll just keep going and going. but, uh, like to what you said about your son, almost being misdiagnosed with being deaf, I was actually misdiagnosed with Tourette syndrome. Really, this is like how far we've come in autism research in just knowledge about autism. My stems, we thought were Tourette syndrome and the doctor diagnosed that with Tourette syndrome.

[00:04:35] It wasn't until I started posting on TikTok and I found out through other autistic individuals at 25 years old that I, I never had Tourette syndrome. It was just me stemming it. Wow. Wow. Like I had to find this out through people who aren't medical professionals. I, I, I like, and medical professional diagnosed me with Tourette syndrome and I don't even have it.

[00:04:54] Rob Gorski: And that is the power of, and we'll get into what you're doing, but that's the power of what you're doing. Right. And it's sort of, sort of like what, what I've been doing from a parent's point of view. Like, I feel like the doctors and a specialists, like they all, they serve a very important role in a lot of this stuff.

[00:05:06] There is so much more that we can learn from each other. And we learned from you sharing your story. And I, I was talking to somebody, I can't remember who it was now and it, it sparked something in me. And I started down this journey and I was diagnosed with ADHD last week at 43, my whole life. Well, my whole life makes sense now, but I didn't recognize it for what it was.

[00:05:26] It's crazy. Isn't it? How that works? Yeah.

[00:05:28] Cory Singer: Well, congratulations on the diagnosis by the way.

[00:05:30] Rob Gorski: Thank you. Thank you. I appreciate that. It's uh, it really, um, I kind of like, I didn't struggle with it at first, but it was just, it was like sort of that realization that now everything makes sense. Then I know how to better deal with it and adapt and move on.

[00:05:43] And I think it's been a positive thing for me, just cuz you brought that up, but when you figured out that it was stemming and not Tourettes, what was that like to kind of come to that realization?

[00:05:52] Cory Singer: I think it's the same realization of when you had ADHD or like whoa, like what, like. Like, like I said, at 25, I find this out mm-hmm a couple years ago and it's just, it it's crazy to me that a medical professional diagnosed me was something I don't have, you know, parts cuz we thought I had it and it's just, wow, like this is also autism.

[00:06:13] What else? Cuz my family, they didn't know where, where to go with my autism. You know like what, who to look to. Like we went to all these medical professionals. They could barely tell me anything I wasn't doing well in school. And I, I realized, you know, at 25 it all went back to the autism. And so it, it was almost like I was diagnosed late in life, but I wasn't, you know, it's like, I always had the knowledge of being autistic.

[00:06:38] I didn't know all the things that entailed with it. I thought I was just a socially awkward dude, but like, there was just so much more to it than that.

[00:06:44] Rob Gorski: It was like that one connection, that one piece that made everything that brought the whole picture into focus.

[00:06:50] Cory Singer: Exactly. Yeah. Just, um, It's crazy just, and, and again, that's why I do what I do.

[00:06:56] So like people have the answers that I never had. So I could like, you know, I, they don't have to go through what I went through, cuz to get to the point where I am today in life was actually a very traumatic road. And you know, I want to kind of make that easier for other people. Cuz like, you know, when I, when I was a little kid, there was no YouTube.

[00:07:13] There was no TikTok. YouTube was just starting and there was mm-hmm it was nothing like it is today. So, and now, but now we have that, uh, forum and platform, and that makes, you know, you could reach people in a way that you couldn't in person.

[00:07:27] Rob Gorski: And some people might be more comfortable reaching people like that, too.

[00:07:30] Exactly. Yeah, it gives you more options in a better way to connect. It's one of the very positive things that come out of the inter uh, of the internet. Um, so, and you kind of just talked about it a little bit and you don't have to go into details, but like, was it tough growing up?

[00:07:44] Cory Singer: It was, um, part of it was because I'm an only child.

[00:07:47] Okay. And both my parents, uh, divorced at an early age. So that, that was very hard. And, you know, you had like two parents trying to support me. and, and, you know, I, I didn't understand myself at all, really. Like I just, I had my special interest and, and obsessions like in the autistic childhood. And, you know, I had to kind of find myself, but I hadn't my best friend who I'm still very good friends with today from my childhood.

[00:08:16] But, you know, even then, like I had a hard time connecting with people because I was always seen as the weird kid, you know, in school too. I had a hard time in. Not just with, you know, my home life, but in school too, I've had some really great teachers and it's just, they knew how to teach me the subjects that they were trying to teach me.

[00:08:35] I had other teachers that just thought like a one love fits all, uh, kind of technique in teaching and it didn't work. And I would, I almost failed a couple times and. They would get on me about it. And I would spend hours on end doing homework. I'd come home and I'd take a long nap cuz I was burned out from a whole day of, you know, going through the stress of school and then I would spend hours doing homework that would take a, a neurotypical child, like maybe not even an hour to do.

[00:09:08] Yeah. So, but I found my route of respect through theater. I was also the theater kid. That's where all the weird kids go. It was like music and theater. So it was like, it was perfect for me, but that's where I got my respect from other people along the way.

[00:09:20] Rob Gorski: Like at what point did you pick up music in? I'm guessing more like the arts, right.

[00:09:26] Yeah. So how, how did that come into your life?

[00:09:29] Cory Singer: So I've always been a very artistic person and a very creative person. Mm-hmm , uh, I, I started drawing at a very young age, you know, cause I just, I liked creating and I liked expressing myself for some reason. I just wanted to be on stage. I can't explain it.

[00:09:46] Just something drew me to the stage. And in the fourth grade I did my very first play, the Velveteen rabbit. I was the clown and already I was addicted and I just, I kept doing theater. I did all the local summer drama shows. I did all the school shows. I did all the high school musicals. And when I got towards high school, that's when I really started coming into my own.

[00:10:06] In terms of theater, I was the school theater kid and the school singer. That's when people discovered, cuz I always knew I could. But that's some people discovered I could sing. And I, I played trumpet from third grade to like my freshman year and I didn't enjoy it that much, but, you know, I was always surrounded by music.

[00:10:22] My family was always listening to like journey, Melissa Eridge Stevie wonder. AC DC, like very lean rhymes, like a very Elton John, like a very eclectic music growing up. And my junior year of high school, that's, that's when I first picked up, when I first picked up a guitar when I was 10, but then I put it down.

[00:10:41] I was like, yeah, cuz the school rocked. But then I wanted to try it again and that's when I really got into it. And that's when I started opening my mind from just doing musical theater, exploring people like Neil young. And, uh, ACDC Glen Hanser what have you. So, you know, what got me through my, um, through my childhood was the arts and doing theater because that was, that was my love.

[00:11:06] And that's how I was able to express myself.

[00:11:09] Rob Gorski: I was gonna ask you if that was an avenue to express yourself. Oh

[00:11:13] Cory Singer: yeah. And it's like, if you're the weird kid, you need a weird way to express yourself. It's it's right there. You know, like a lot of autistic people that I even know personally, all of us were very creative and I think we, we like to, uh, express ourselves creatively.

[00:11:31] Mm-hmm

[00:11:32] Rob Gorski: so you find, so it's easier for you to express yourself through music. Yeah,

[00:11:36] Cory Singer: exactly. And you know, and I did the candy factory in, uh, 20 12, 20 13, my senior year. That's when I first began songwriting, you know, that was a singing competition show on Bravo TV, ran by candy Burris from the house, always at Atlanta.

[00:11:50] She's a Grammy winning songwriter, wrote the song, no scrubs for TLC. And I did that show because, you know, there was Amer I got offers to do American idol. Um, America just got talent cause I put myself on YouTube, but I wanted to do a newer show. And I did that. There was, it was a different type of show.

[00:12:09] There was a winter per episode. I won my episode. I was the autistic theater kid, of course. And I have been playing guitar for a year. At that point, candy wrote, uh, there was me and one other contestant. She wrote us both a song unique to our story. We had to learn it any week, perform it in front of an audience, you know, kind of turn us into like a pop star and what have.

[00:12:30] And it was laid out right in front of me, like how to write a song. Katie burs inadvertently taught me how to write a song. Cause we had the MP3 with the, the music, with her vocals and then just the music. So we could practice and the lyric sheet, you know, as verse pre chorus, chorus, verse pre chorus, chorus, bridge, chorus with the music.

[00:12:48] I'm like, it's, it's that simple, you know, during the filming of that show, that's when I first started writing and I've been writing ever since.

[00:12:55] Rob Gorski: Is that a good outlet too? Do you. Yeah. Oh yeah,

[00:12:58] Cory Singer: dude, I'm writing all the time. Even when I'm at my day job, like I carry this around me all the time. Cuz like if, if I come up with an idea, I'll just like Jo something down or I'll even, even if I'm not doing anything, I'll start writing a song while I'm like, you know, I wrote a song about my job once while I was at my, at my job.

[00:13:13] And so, and I got home and finished it.

[00:13:14] Rob Gorski: So you get inspiration just wherever you are. Yeah, exactly. All right. So you started using social media and then was it TikTok first or were you on other stuff? In terms of autism in terms of you putting yourself out there. So Facebook,

[00:13:31] Cory Singer: Instagram with the music, and this is when I first began music and I was still, uh, developing as an artist and developing my style, you know, through trials and tribulations of.

[00:13:43] Trying to figure out what I have to offer in terms of my art. Cuz you know, you can't just like copy other people, you got find your own thing. It took me five years to start writing close to as good as I right now. So it, it takes a while and I, I stuck with it at times. Almost wanted to give up. I just like I kept going, but I think it's when TikTok happened.

[00:14:03] That's when things started to actually start progressing and I started talking about my autism. I actually didn't want to, at first I wanted to actually. Never talk about my autism. Cause I didn't wanna make it because like, oh look, Corey, you know, the autistic guy who can write all these songs, I wanna be like, all this dude who could like write these great songs.

[00:14:23] He just happens to be autistic.

[00:14:24] Rob Gorski: You know what I mean? Yep. That's what I do with my kids. They're super amazing kids. They just happen to be autistic, you know?

[00:14:31] Cory Singer: Yeah, and that's the message. I try to put out there through my TikTok and you know, I feel like that, um, that helps.

[00:14:38] Rob Gorski: How have you been able to utilize TikTok to advocate for other autistic people?

[00:14:43] Cory Singer: When I first started TikTok, my label told me you gotta get TikTok to do the music. And I just like, that's when I was starting to give up on the music, but, you know, I rediscovered it. Yeah. But I started putting out funny videos cuz I'm a, I likened myself to be a funny guy and a couple videos did well actually.

[00:14:58] But then I made a video joking about my autism, you know, that's where I still refer to it as Asperger's. And, um, which as we know now is not a, a good term anymore, but I joked about how, you know, I have it and it means, um, I have autism and there's nothing wrong with that, except for the name, because it sounds like Asperger's, and it sounds like something you would have about for McDonald's make Asperger's and the video just took off and I'm like, okay.

[00:15:27] I may have something and, and so posting about it on, on TikTok and talking about it was also therapeutic for me because this is when I was heavy into masking my autism, which I, I talk about never doing okay. And I did that for a couple years, you know, just denying the, the, even the autism existence. and it was the worst couple years of my life because, you know, I just, I lost myself and it wasn't until I started talking about it again and helping other people, I was also kind of helping myself in a sense, come to terms that.

[00:16:00] It is what it is. This is what I have, and it's not necessarily a bad thing.

[00:16:04] Rob Gorski: Do you find yourself helping other neurodiverse people as well as everybody else, I guess, to better understand or become more aware and more, um, compassionate. Hopefully. Exactly.

[00:16:15] Cory Singer: Yeah. I mean, that's, that's the long term goal. I mean, especially young kids, cuz there's a lot of kids on TikTok.

[00:16:21] If a kid sees that on my, on my TikTok and they recognize that weird kid and they recognize all the traits that I talk about and are like, oh, oh, oh, like they now understand it. Right. And also teachers too. I mean, teachers could learn a lot from it too. I mean, listen, being a teacher is a hard job. Yes, I would never wanna be a teacher.

[00:16:38] I don't have the patience, but , you know, so I understand it is a hard job, but I also feel like that a lot of the teachers that I had, and again, I had some great teachers mm-hmm but a lot of teachers I had, could've used a better understanding of me and how to teach me. And to understand the reason why I am the way I am, instead of just seeing me as a misbehaved kid who didn't try.

[00:16:59] And a lot of parents reach out to me saying, and I, I say this humbly like that, my videos are helping them better understand their kids.

[00:17:06] Rob Gorski: Oh, I totally believe it. Totally believe it.

[00:17:08] Cory Singer: I also have friends reach out to me. Let's say like through your videos, I was able to kind of discover that I might be autistic.

[00:17:15] One of my mom's best friends. She, she like recognized some of my traits and her daughter. and then she went to see if she had autism and she got diagnosed and it's like, my videos helped understand her daughter better. It's like, it makes a difference. Just talking about. Yeah,

[00:17:30] Rob Gorski: it's so powerful what you're doing, because people should be able to share their stories and they should feel comfortable sharing their stories.

[00:17:36] And there should be no shame or stigma or anything like that, you know? And, and I think I can help my kids and I can help parents just from like my perspective. And I can help autistic adults maybe better understand where parents are coming from. I can only go so far. Right. And like to have someone like you for my kids to look up to is amazing.

[00:17:57] because thank you. You can be well, thank you, honestly, because there's so many people out there in the world that we don't want our kids looking up to, you know, you're honest and you're transparent and you are using yourself and your life experience so that, so that it's relatable and kids can see that and they can say, you know, like I can do it too, and you're representing that for them.

[00:18:17] And that's that's so. So powerful. What's been kind of the coolest experience that you've had since you've been doing this stuff on, on TikTok.

[00:18:26] Cory Singer: Um, mostly the feedback, uh, like from parents, other autistic people, I've actually gotten emails from, uh, there's this one girl from England that emailed me, uh, who said that, like, it was, it was great.

[00:18:40] When I say all this, I say this humbly because, uh, I totally get it. She, she said like, I, I don't like sounding like I'm bragging, but she said like, it was cool for once seeing someone out there that she feels like she could relate to. You know what I mean? Yeah. Because being autistic, you know, there's a community of people on TikTok now that like, I, I feel like I belong to, but before that it's a, it's a very, it could be very lonely when no one understands you.

[00:19:07] It's like, you're an alien from another. And you're put here and it's like your culture shot, but you're just, but you were born here. You can't help it.

[00:19:14] Rob Gorski: I've been a dad for 22 years now. And this is such a cool experience sitting here talking to you, because like I said, there's a lot that I can do for my kids, but my kids need people like you.

[00:19:24] Doing what you're doing and being a positive influence and building them up and showing them that it's okay. Be yourself, be yourself, right? Like, yeah. You're autistic. So what people always ask me what I call my kids. I'm like, I call them by their names. Exactly. We're all just humans.

[00:19:38] Cory Singer: Exactly. It's like, I tell people like don't, if, if I tell you I'm autistic, don't talk to me.

[00:19:41] Like I'm a baby. I'm still the same person as I was before. I just, now I feel comfortable sharing this information with you. You just gotta be chill. Like the way people need to react. It's like, oh, cool. So anyway, like, you know, it's just like a regular thing, you know, like, yeah, we're trying to cuz it is a disability at the end of the day.

[00:19:59] People there's people that wanna deny that, but it is a disability we're trying to get it so people understand it the way they understand blindness the way they understand deafness mm-hmm , here's the thing. And I, I tell this, we cannot help it. At all like there's, this is we're born like this it's beyond our control.

[00:20:15] So, you know, it's, if we could accept it, you're gonna have to as well.

[00:20:19] Rob Gorski: I totally support that statement. Uh, okay. Couple of questions, getting back to your music. Mm-hmm what really kind of inspires you to create a song or feel the need to write something down like that. And, and then turn it into something that everybody can listen to.

[00:20:36] Cory Singer: Like I said, like from an early age, I've always been creative. And I've always, like I said, that's the best way I know how to express myself. And I, like, I just started learning the piano in January and I love I've been playing guitar for like 10 years, but, you know, just started learning. Cause I wanna up my game and get better part that's part of it too.

[00:20:57] Like I've been doing this for almost, I've been writing for nine years now and I just, you know, I keep getting better and better and better with the more I write. And that's my goal. Like I just, I want to keep, you know, going uphill and keep creating and putting it out there in the world. You know, like sometimes I write some stinkers, but you know that sometimes you have to just to get it out of you, but you, you know, it's just creating something from the ground up that wasn't there before.

[00:21:25] And sharing it with someone and saying, I made this and being proud of what I made. Like sometimes I'll have a story to tell one song. I wrote them very proud of it that I, I actually wrote based off my autism. It's one of the first songs that I, I have released and done that actually did well. And this is when I was still in the beginning phase of TikTok with the, with the autism advocacy.

[00:21:46] And, you know, I wrote it for my followers too. It's like, so we could have, we could have a song to relate to, you know, I, I just is one of the first times where I wrote a song and got completely honest and it, it it's one of my best songs that I I've written. And it, it was a very quick. When I write something very personal from the heart that people can relate to.

[00:22:09] That that means a lot as well. Like I just, I just love creating. I'm a creative person. If I'm not doing something creative, then I, I feel like I have no need for existing, you know.

[00:22:21] Rob Gorski: Are you working on anything new currently?

[00:22:23] Cory Singer: Oh, yeah. I have a song, uh, that's uh, available for pre-order. We're still working out the release day called chance of a lifetime.

[00:22:31] If you could go and for your audience, you could go to Corey singer.com. It'll take you to all the streaming services you could pre save the song, you know, pre-order it. So when it releases you have, it's a proposal song, like very Josh Groman. Mm-hmm like I wrote it as a proposal. Okay. And, uh, I'm just in the studio.

[00:22:51] I'm putting together a bit of an album right now. Uh, I'm going to the studio two to three times a month right now and just, I, I have a whole catalog of work that I've been building up and now I want to start putting it out there. You know.

[00:23:05] Rob Gorski: Very, very cool. What is your ultimate goal? Do you want to, uh, continue?

[00:23:10] Well, I mean, obviously, probably continue with the singing songwriting, but do you want to continue the advocacy as well and kind of find some way to do them together? Or like, what is your ultimate goal? Absolutely.

[00:23:21] Cory Singer: You know, like I said, I just, I want to be known as the, you know, singer songwriter who just happens to have autism.

[00:23:27] And if that also grants me more opportunities. Absolutely. I'll take it. And if it's an opportunity also to educate people on what it's really like, because again, like it's not like a one glove fits all. Like if you met one person with autism, you had one person with autism. Yep. That that's great too. I just, I, in both avenues, I wanna see them both grow and get better.

[00:23:51] Rob Gorski: Do you have any advice for the kids out there who are listening, who may want to try and find where they fit, I guess, or maybe they're struggling to find where they fit and they're, and they look to you because they say like, Hey, this guy's he's like me. And you know, he can do it. You know, what, what, like what advice does that make sense?

[00:24:11] Maybe I didn't ask that, right?

[00:24:12] Cory Singer: No, no, I get what you mean. Uh, it it's something I made up when I was a little kid focus on your abilities, not your disabil.

[00:24:19] Rob Gorski: Perfect. What one piece of advice would you offer parents who are trying to help their kids to, you know, reach their potential, enjoy life, be happy. Like it's a tough job.

[00:24:29] Cory Singer: It is.. And I, myself am not a parent. So I wanna say this carefully, uh I would say, be very patient. Uh, your child is still your child. Don't compare your child to other children automatically. If they're autistic, they are different from other children and you need to be very patient and not only learn from your children, but learn with them.

[00:24:55] And. Don't don't use someone like me as a model of how you want your child to be because your child is going to be whoever it is they're meant to be.

[00:25:05] Rob Gorski: That is solid advice that I did not have when I was going. When I was first starting off and it's so crazy, I was just talking to, uh, I was talking to someone else recently and when my oldest was diagnosed in 2005, nobody knew anything about autism.

[00:25:19] It was rain man on, you know, the movie or where that was it. Nobody was talking about it. You could look it up, but there was only, you know, clinical stuff. Yeah. And I was overwhelmed and someone suggested that I, I write in a journal and I don't do paper and pencil. So it was. Blog that was set up and I was just sort of sharing what, what I was struggling with.

[00:25:38] And then I was just leaving it there and walking away and feeling better. Like it was therapeutic. Like you talked about your music and stuff in writing. It was the same thing for me and people started reading it and it was people finding out that they weren't alone for the first time. And it was crazy that there's so many.

[00:25:58] There's so many of us, but we're so disconnected. And what you are doing is, is bridging gaps and, uh, creating conversation and utilizing technology from today to help spread a positive message. And I wish that had been around for a lot longer than, than what it is, but we've come a long way in the last 20 years.

[00:26:17] And, uh, I'm excited to see where you go with this because it's really positive as a parent. I'm very grateful. That you're out there doing this because it, it makes life better for, for all of us. So thank you for doing that.

[00:26:30] Cory Singer: And thank you. And thank you. Uh, thank you so much for the kind words that, that , that means a lot, like I said, it's, it's very humbling and I, I feel like I'm bragging a lot of times.

[00:26:41] I don't like, like, feeling that way and it's just,

[00:26:44] Rob Gorski: I, I understand. I'm the same way.

[00:26:45] Cory Singer: Yeah. It's like, it really is a humbling experience, you know? And so talk. Yeah, sure. I've helped other people, but like you said, it's been therapeutic for me and you know, it's, I'm, I'm happy. I'm in a ha better place now than I was a few years ago.

[00:26:58] Rob Gorski: Is there anything else that you want people listening to know before we, uh, close this out?

[00:27:03] Cory Singer: Yes. I'm gonna remind you again, go to my website, Corey singer.com and pre-order a chance of a lifetime and like pay attention to any other future, uh, songs that are gonna be coming.

[00:27:12] Rob Gorski: Very very cool. I will have all that stuff, uh, in the show notes below.

[00:27:17] Yeah. So thank you so much for everything that you do and for taking the time to come on and, and talk to us about it.

[00:27:23] Cory Singer: Well, thank you Rob. Thank you for having me. I, I really appreciate it.

[00:27:24] Rob Gorski: Oh my pleasure. And, uh, yeah, we'll be in touch.

[00:27:28] Cory Singer: Yes, sir.

[00:27:29] Rob Gorski: Before I close things out today, I just wanna say thank you to Corey for taking the time to come on a show and sharing his life with us. You know, you're doing some truly amazing things, you know, not only are you a talented singer songwriter who just happens to be autistic, but you are using your massive platform to help educate public. Right. And you're doing it with your own experience and you're doing it with this blend of humor that that really just sort of captures people's attention.

[00:27:48] And I think that you're. A big difference in a lot of lives. So thank you for that. I really, really appreciate it. You can find all of Corey's information in the show notes below as well as Corey singer.com, where there'll be links for you to, uh, pre save his newest releases and yeah. Check it out, support what he's doing.

[00:28:08] Uh, follow him on social media. And just helps spread the word because he's doing some really cool things and it's making a world a better place. As for me, you can find me@theautismdad.com. All of my social links are at the top of the page. Uh, you can like subscribe and listen to this podcast on any one of your favorite podcasts, listening apps.

[00:28:24] So please just hit that subscribe button and maybe give it a rating if you don't mind. Cause it helps me to learn, you know, what you wanna hear and what you don't wanna hear. So, you know, it works out for both of us. Yeah. I hope you guys have a fantastic week and I will talk to you next Monday. All right.

[00:28:38] See you. Bye.

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Cory Singer

Singer/Songwriter/Influencer/Autism Advocate

NJ Native Cory Singer is an accomplished singer/songwriter/musician and theater performer. Cory has performed in arenas before thousands nationwide. He starred on BRAVO TV’s singing Competition The Kandi Factory, winning the grand prize, taking home a song penned by Grammy Award Winning Artist Kandi Burress, “I Can Do Anything”. Cory is an exceptional songwriter, and he captivates his audiences no matter the venue or event. He finished out 2017 on a high note being added to several media magazine watch lists for 2018. Cory has become an advocate for children, families, and adults who are on the spectrum. He has used his TikTok to promote positivity by inspiring others with his platform. Cory has coined the phrase '"Let's Normalize Autism." He currently has over 500K fans and followers worldwide.